    
       Feel confident working with even the most stuck clients, whether you're
      
            a therapist.
            a nutritionist.
            a coach.
            a personal trainer.
            a physical therapist.
            an addiction counselor. 
            a nurse practitioner. 
            an acupuncturist.
            a doctor.
            a holistic medicine practitioner.
        

self-guided resources

Befriending resistance allows us to support stuck clients to stick around and get what they came to us for.

Without burning ourselves out.

Individual Coaching & Consultation

If you are a dedicated health and wellness professional looking to get right to the heart of your challenges in working with “resistant” clients, this is for you.

✓ You are currently working directly with clients.
✓ You have completed or are in the process of completing your training.
✓ You want personalized support tailored specifically to your approach and your clients’ particular challenges with resistance.
✓ And you identify with the following challenges:
→ You notice that clients aren’t getting all that they could from your services.
→ You wish that you (and your clients) could enjoy the process more.
→ You have issues with clients sticking around.
→ You want to feel confident working with client resistance.
→ Most importantly - you are intrigued by the idea that befriending resistance could not only move your clients forward in their process, but make your work more easeful, effective, and fun.
(If you’re still not sure if it’s a fit, read more about how these challenges can show up →)

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Self-Guided Offerings

The Resistance Roadmap for Professionals

In this experiential workshop, you will gain new perspectives that can be immediately applied to start getting your clients unstuck.

We will cover:

✓ resistance as your clients’ ally in growth and change, not the problem

✓ the different ways resistance shows up in our clients (and how to figure out if resistance is really the issue)

✓ exercises to build self-awareness around your relationship to client resistance and how it impacts your work

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This self-guided exploration of client resistance is made to accompany the workshop or to stand alone. Inside are prompts and exercises to deepen your understanding of the topics covered in the workshop

It will support you to:

✓ explore how to reframe resistance within your current modality/approach

✓ determine which kinds of resistance your clients are facing (and how to start approaching them differently)

✓ deepen your understanding of the stuff that comes up for you personally and professionally when you’re faced with client resistance

workbook (Coming soon)

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Working with Client Resistance

This first half of this course delves deep into your own relationship to resistance, guiding you to work through your own “stuff” so that you can be even more effective with your clients.

Building on that strong foundation, the second half will provide you with directly applicable skills and exercises that will turn resistance from your enemy to your ally. (And that continue to shock even me with how powerful they can be.)

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"I loved Virginia’s workshop. I found her approach and the way she redefines resistance really helpful and supportive.

She speaks from her own experience and vulnerability, her why is obvious and to her credit she brings a lot of legitimacy to this topic based on the professional expertise she’s accumulated.

I appreciated how insightful the session was – there was a ton of information, she gave us prompts, tools and different ways to rethink and reframe how we view resistance with interactive exercises to further drive this home.”

-Julie Shui, coach & hypnotherapist

This approach might be a good fit if you are a dedicated health & wellness professional and:

You notice that clients aren’t getting all that they could from your services.

You feel some clients staying stuck in spite of meeting with you regularly. You also might be feeling stuck yourself, knowing that you’ve done everything you can think of and the needle just doesn’t seem to be moving for them. You wonder why clients don’t do the things that you know would help them and sometimes even doubt that some of your clients really want to change.

You wish that you (and your clients) could enjoy the process more.

You find yourself working really hard, especially with certain clients - even sometimes to the point of feeling resentful that they aren’t putting in the same effort as you. You are predictably exhausted after certain client sessions and wonder where the joy went.

You have issues with clients sticking around.

You’ve had some clients ghost you or drop out of working with you part way through their process. Perhaps you have more client turnover than you would like. And the hardest part is that you don’t totally get why (and maybe even secretly fear that it’s because you’re not as good as you thought).

You want to feel confident working with client resistance.

You know that it’s hard for you when clients don’t seem to be making progress or engaging in their process with you. Maybe you also want to go beyond just working with more obviously motivated clients or only being able to know how to help people when they are in that mode. You want to believe that client resistance isn’t the problem, but don’t know what that really means in practice or where to go from there.

Most importantly - you are intrigued by the idea that befriending resistance could not only move your clients forward in their process, but make your work more easeful, effective, and fun.

Resistance is not the enemy of growth, healing, or anything else our clients are looking to accomplish.

Yes, on the surface resistance is about not wanting to do something. But when you look closely, what we call “resistance” actually functions as a compass, pointing directly to deeper wants and needs.

But as Carl Jung said: what we resist persists, and our clients’ resistance itself is no exception to that rule.

So when we fight against our clients’ resistance, not only does it not stop, but the “no” gets stronger.

That's because in our battle against resistance, we have only paid attention to what it means about what our clients don't want to do (whether it’s working out, “going deeper” emotionally, or changing their habits). We see resistance as a threat to our clients’ progress.

We (however unintentionally) fail to understand the real message of resistance, which is to tell us something about what our clients do want. And their resistance won’t stop until we get what it’s saying.